Basement-dwelling pseudo-otaku with a thrill for forecasting on the side.
By: KoritheMan , 8:15 AM GMT on June 17, 2014
I was talking to a guy on Facebook about... stuff (I don't even remember now, lol). Eventually we get on the subject of personal boundaries. I haven't thought about it in awhile because I honestly don't care anymore. Why should I?
However, when that particular modal of discussion exhibits a resurgence, I end up invariably thinking about it anyway.
It's as my brother said earlier... it's not that I don't understand people... it's that I don't understand their reasons for doing what they do. I am very hard-pressed to respect an opinion if I deem it as illogical or irrational. Emotions get in the way with certain things. That's objectively true. And I feel that for the most part... boundaries are based solely on emotion, without even a modicum of rationality or logic.
I've discussed this with Trent before, but not everyone here. At this point I just pretend to understand people. I know a couple people here that aren't comfortable discussing certain topics, so I avoid discussing them. I think even socially awkward people (aka me) would agree with that. But every time I respect those boundaries, I find myself having to pretend. I don't like the idea of feigning understanding of a person's delineated barriers, but I can't help it. My background turned me into this overly logical machine.
In the end, if feigning produces the same results as authentic understanding (i.e. it maintains the friendship), does it really matter? I'd say not.
What are you guys' thoughts?
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