I'm Glad I'm Not You, Cus Then I Wouldn't Be Me

Friday's Question of the Day

By: ricderr, 3:21 PM GMT on February 28, 2014

The princess turns three tomorrow...



The other morning while getting ready for work as usual we had the morning news on the TV and they reported on two stories from the day before. The first was about a woman who had been sentenced the day before for heroin possession. She had been pulled over in a traffic stop and the drugs were found on her possession during a search. She was found guilty and sentenced to ten years in jail. The following story was about a man that had an argument with another at a local bar, left and came back with a knife upon which he stabbed the victim and was arrested a few days later. The man was found guilty of second degree attempted murder and was given a sentence of three to five years. At the end of the latter story, Jessica came out of the bathroom and asked if I had heard both stories. We were both perplexed as to how a drug possession charge could be twice as long as attempted murder. Later in the week there was a story on a news program detailing the discrepancies in jail sentences as they relate to crimes and it leads to the QOD:

Do you feel our sentencing is fair and proper

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Valentine's Question of the Day

By: ricderr, 12:49 AM GMT on February 13, 2014



Oh her eyes her eyes
Make the stars look like they're not shining
Her hair her hair
Falls perfectly without her trying

She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day

Yeah I know I know
When I compliment her
She won't believe me
And it's so, it's so
Sad to think that she don't see what I see

But every time she asks me "Do I look okay?"
I'll say

When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for a while
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are

Yeah her lips her lips
I could kiss them all day if she'd let me
Her laugh her laugh
She hates but I think it's so sexy
She's so beautiful
And I tell her everyday

Oh you know you know you know
I never ask you to change
If perfect's what you're searching for
Then just stay the same

So, don't even bother asking
If you look okay
You know I'll say

When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for a while
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are

The way you are
The way you are
Girl you're amazing
Just the way you are

When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for a while
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are


Oh to be in love on Valentine's day. Actually, any day is a great day to be in love.

To those that are in love right now. I hope you know how truly fantastic you have it.

For those that are not, I wish you peace in your journey and hope one day you find it yourself.

To those that have loved for many years I hope to join your special ranks someday.

To those who have loved and failed I say, never give up and remember the lyrics that someday you can hopefully sing, "God bless the broken road that led me straight to you."

I wish you all a wonderful day and a wonderful life and I ask...


What are your plans for Valentine's Day?


As for mine, I'll be getting married!

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Monday's Question of the Day

By: ricderr, 9:30 PM GMT on February 10, 2014

So last week, some Hollywood actor type, I can't remember his name or care to look it up died. Now since it's Hollywood it's newsworthy they say and since he died of a drug overdose I can not tell you how many times I have either heard or read that his death was tragic. Yes, a drug overdose by a Hollywood actor is tragic. What if he was homeless though. What if he had spent years upon years begging, thieving and doing God knows what to make enough money for his next fix. You can sure as heck bet his death wouldn't make the news and you darn well better believe no one would call it tragic. So to the QOD:




Why is there such a double standard on our outlook of the famous as compared to the poor?

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Thursday's Question of the Day

By: ricderr, 9:27 PM GMT on February 06, 2014

I'm letting Jessica take over my blog today. Well not really. She posted this on hers and I'm stealing it for mine. I hope you enjoy.



IS LOVE ALL YOU NEED?

Someone asked me this the other day. After failed marriages my typical answer that I firmly believed in was: NO, sometimes love isn’t enough. This time I sat and thought about what she asked. I questioned what is love? This is what I discovered…
When we meet someone we “feel” love. It is self contained, it is selfish in that it is an individual internal state, and is best described as a noun form of the word “love”. This is the typical infatuation stage where your heart jumps and your stomach ties in knots when you see the person and in turn we treat that person well to maintain our internal state…our selfish state of happiness. The other person does not experience our internal state, they do not feel the “love” we describe or feel when they are around. They experience what we are willing to give to maintain our internal feelings of happiness.
As the relationship grows and we get to know the other person things come up that cause us to be in a state of cognitive dissonance about the “feeling” of love. Now not only does this person bring us happiness but anger, disappointment, confusion, insecurity, and other feelings that cause us to weigh whether maintaining our internal state of happiness or “love” is worth the cost of coping with and getting through these other emotional experiences.
This is the point most relationships either end, a decision is made to accept the current way of being, or there’s a third option: To begin loving.
Now you ask, what is the difference between love and loving? “Love” as a noun described above is an internal selfish state. No one sees what you feel, no one feels what you feel, no one experiences what you call “love”. The word “Love” as a verb is described as an external act towards another. This type of “love” does not have to necessarily be driven by an internal state of “love” or feeling. It can be driven by a state of commitment or a desire to make the other person happy and therefore we feel fulfilled by the act of “loving”. This type of “love” as a verb is a very selfless act. Our relationship to our partner transitions from a very selfish to selfless type of exchange. GOD did not create us to be selfless creatures and therefore we struggle with maintaining this type of interaction, change or commitment. We are born with an innate desire or drive to do what make us feel good. Yet GOD asks of us to do give, to provide for others, and even to tithe with a “loving” heart that is fulfilled simply by the act of giving. This act creates “Love” in our heart through our own acts of free will.
So going back to the question, “Is love all we need?” GOD tells us that LOVE is the greatest gift we can give another. He doesn’t say it’s the greatest gift we can get from another, implying that in giving we are receiving “love” through our sacrifice to others or commitment to another. If in your marriage or relationship you are fulfilled by the act of “love” as a verb to your partner than YES it is all you need. It is personally fulfilling, it is meeting the needs of your partner materially and emotionally, leaving them in a state of desire to also “love” in return to maintain their internal state of “Love” and leaving you also having a desire to maintain your internal state of “love”.
So who creates this internal state of “love”? You do. Through your actions you create a symbiotic relationship that both “loves” and in turn creates “love”. One does not exist without the other. So the question, Is love all we need, becomes a complicated question with a very simple answer: Yes.

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Wednesday's Question of the Day

By: ricderr, 4:33 PM GMT on February 05, 2014






I saw this picture today and it made me miss my dad. I would love the opportunity to talk with him again even though no matter what I asked the answers always seemed to come around to his favorite joke answer that covered a lot. "Pops, what can I do to be a better man?" The answer as it was to what do you want for Christmas, birthday, the meaning of life etc. would be. " All your love, good grades and a clean room."


Who would you talk to and what would you talk about?

Updated: 4:40 PM GMT on February 05, 2014

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