Social ineptitude.

By: KoritheMan , 6:25 AM GMT on January 20, 2014

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So I realize now I possess this quality in earnest. I've been working for over two years at this point (I was homeschooled before that, if anyone wants to know), and I honestly cannot possibly enumerate how many times I've been called socially awkward during that time. For awhile -- up until very recently, actually -- I took a great degree of offense to this. After all, who wants to be called awkward? The word itself carries an extremely negative connotation. But then I realized that... they were right. I am awkward; I honestly have no idea why I wasn't able to see it before. For most of those two years I kept wondering what they meant by that, but now it's plainly obvious to me: I am infinitely more forward and direct than most people are. Most people don't just walk up to people and start asking them random questions. For some reason, there is this ridiculous societal expectation to surreptitiously wean things into conversation instead of just being direct, upfront, and honest with what you want to say. I'd say if you have to be discreet to the point where the other person has to second-guess your intentions, you're doing it wrong. Also, I can't recall how many times, when I used to possess that mindset, I got frustrated when I couldn't find an ample opportunity to bring up the thing I wanted to discuss. I staunchly believe communication proceeds 100x smoother if we just come out and say whatever is on our minds, rather than beating around the bush and trying to create a window in which it's "socially accepted" (whatever the hell that means) to say it. So now, I don't. Apparently, in the words of a coworker, "Most people aren't used to [my frankness] that", but I don't particularly care anymore; just because society has established a certain sense of rules, it doesn't mean I have to abide by them. I am a lot happier being an iconoclast than I ever was being what I deem to be a societal sheep, and I plan to keep it that way.

I'll fully admit that this mentality is not very adaptive or healthy to generate a vast array of friends, but who actually cares about that? The people who know me will appreciate me for who I am, and the others can go fall off a cliff or something. While that was an extreme and probably useless metaphor, the point I'm trying to make here is that I think people judge entirely too superficially, and that society as a whole is structured according to an extremely tenuous and arbitrary set of "rules" that are somehow touted as being not tenuous and arbitrary.

So, yeah. If I want to ask my people something, I'm going to. None of this trying to create a conversation opening crap. And if they don't like it, it doesn't mean there's something objectively wrong with me, it means we're operating under entirely different paradigms. But frankly, the lack of logical thought to the pragmatism and utility of a vast majority of societal views annoys me. I can't force people to live the way I do, but hopefully I can at least open their minds through example.

So now if people call me awkward, I just cordially agree, revel, and embrace the level. Life is grand when you're you.

Anyone have any thoughts they'd like to share? I get the feeling this blog may get removed by WU admins, or people will just think I'm stupid (and again, think that; I don't care if I lose any respect for posting this. I don't strive for approval) and ignore it altogether. But for those who care (Nathan, looking at you), here it is. Not gonna delete this time.

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99. WunderAlertBot (Admin)
2:25 PM GMT on February 05, 2014
KoritheMan has created a new entry.
98. Astrometeor
10:46 PM GMT on January 26, 2014
Quoting 97. KoritheMan:

Care to summarize? I might consider it depending on the contents.


Check your e-mail in a moment. Not exactly WU-appropriate.
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97. KoritheMan
10:44 PM GMT on January 26, 2014

Quoting 96. Astrometeor:
Kori, you should read the book God of Small Things, by Arundhati Roy.

Link to Amazon Page
Care to summarize? I might consider it depending on the contents.
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96. Astrometeor
8:23 PM GMT on January 26, 2014
Kori, you should read the book God of Small Things, by Arundhati Roy.

Link to Amazon Page
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95. Naga5000
9:51 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 94. KoritheMan:
Nik, I actually went ahead and posted that quote on Facebook.

And now I really want to read the novel it came from.


I've read that book three times now. It is a mountain of a read but so worth it.

Quoting 89. KoritheMan:

Thanks, Nik.

That's actually what I began to realize over time on my own. When you think about it logically, you come to realize -- quite inevitably -- that most people possess neither the time nor the inclination to mentally (or actively) judge someone 24/7.


They sure don't. Most people are so caught up in their own stuff they tend to not give you a second thought, good or bad.
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94. KoritheMan
2:54 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Nik, I actually went ahead and posted that quote on Facebook.

And now I really want to read the novel it came from.
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93. GeorgiaStormz
2:52 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Every WWA I get busts..... and so do half the Winter Storm Warnings.

Chances are, if a WWA doesnt become a WSW, it will probably give almost no snow south of the N GA mountains, at least not around my house
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92. wxchaser97
2:46 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 88. TropicalAnalystwx13:
I'm so depressed NWS ILM cancelled my winter weather advisory. Giving a southerner a winter weather product and then taking it away is one of the worst things you can do to a weather enthusiast. D:

Bad Luck Snow Lover.

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91. Astrometeor
2:46 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 88. TropicalAnalystwx13:
I'm so depressed NWS ILM cancelled my winter weather advisory. Giving a southerner a winter weather product and then taking it away is one of the worst things you can do to a weather enthusiast. D:


Total sympathy with you there Cody, except due to my location, I get let-down a lot more often than you. Then again, I get more snow than you.
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90. KoritheMan
2:45 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 88. TropicalAnalystwx13:
I'm so depressed NWS ILM cancelled my winter weather advisory. Giving a southerner a winter weather product and then taking it away is one of the worst things you can do to a weather enthusiast. D:
xD
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89. KoritheMan
2:41 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 87. Naga5000:
Kori, I posted this quote in Dr. Rood's blog last night, but it seems much more appropriate given the context of your blog.

"You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do. - David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest "

Keep on doing what you do. :)
Thanks, Nik.

That's actually what I began to realize over time on my own. When you think about it logically, you come to realize -- quite inevitably -- that most people possess neither the time nor the inclination to mentally (or actively) judge someone 24/7.
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88. TropicalAnalystwx13
2:40 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
I'm so depressed NWS ILM cancelled my winter weather advisory. Giving a southerner a winter weather product and then taking it away is one of the worst things you can do to a weather enthusiast. D:
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87. Naga5000
2:29 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Kori, I posted this quote in Dr. Rood's blog last night, but it seems much more appropriate given the context of your blog.

"You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do. - David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest "

Keep on doing what you do. :)
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86. KoritheMan
2:29 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 85. Astrometeor:


Thank you Kori.

P.S. Wanna hear an annoying phrase? "The customer is always right."
That only applies to making sales and assisting them to that end. It doesn't apply to obnoxious pet names, lol.

YA HEAR?!
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85. Astrometeor
2:24 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 81. KoritheMan:

LOL

In case you get upset about that laugh, I'm just laughing because it honestly reminds me so much of myself.

Seriously though dude, you're not the only one who hates being called obnoxious pet names; it can definitely make a person feel inferior, and I apologize if you were offended.

Actually, I got mad enough one day to where I told a customer to not refer to me as "baby" when she called me that about a year and a half ago. Probably came as a surprise, but it sure felt nice to reciprocate lol.


Thank you Kori.

P.S. Wanna hear an annoying phrase? "The customer is always right."
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84. Astrometeor
2:22 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 82. TropicalAnalystwx13:

but you...just....?


What? Cody's at a loss of words? Lol.
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83. Skyepony (Mod)
2:22 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 74. Bluestorm5:
Got to agree with Skye, Astro. I didn't pick the most social college, but I'm still having fun. I plan on exploring Western NC when I'm allowed to have my car on campus my sophomore year :)

I started at Brevard College just west of you. It was a two year school then & not much more than twice the size of my high school. But there was no one there to make us live indoors. That first six months was getting to know the place, drive in the mountains. By the end of the first year a small group of us were pretty much living in Pisgah Forest. We'd come in for weather you couldn't shelter in those caves behind waterfalls around there for & before tests. During the summer there is all sorts of kids camps that hire college kids for ~9 weeks, put you up, feed you & pay alright. They were alot of fun too.

Got another vacant farm up there from furlough in Balsam Grove. Saw it snowing on it tonight on webcam. Looks like it was melting as it hit the ground in Mills River.
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82. TropicalAnalystwx13
2:09 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 76. Astrometeor:


If you don't like it, you can change yourself.

Don't call me boy. Already worse enough that Max persists in the foolish name-calling, which is strange, because he will ban me if I post his name here.

but you...just....?
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81. KoritheMan
2:08 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 80. Astrometeor:


No. Didn't notice any. Just reacted how I normally do to Max when he starts it. I don't like it at all. It sounds too snobby to me, like an upper-class man sneering (almost) to a little, poor kid.
LOL

In case you get upset about that laugh, I'm just laughing because it honestly reminds me so much of myself.

Seriously though dude, you're not the only one who hates being called obnoxious pet names; it can definitely make a person feel inferior, and I apologize if you were offended.

Actually, I got mad enough one day to where I told a customer to not refer to me as "baby" when she called me that about a year and a half ago. Probably came as a surprise, but it sure felt nice to reciprocate lol.
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80. Astrometeor
2:05 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 79. KoritheMan:
Though I figured my lightheartedness would be more apparent to you.


No. Didn't notice any. Just reacted how I normally do to Max when he starts it. I don't like it at all. It sounds too snobby to me, like an upper-class man sneering (almost) to a little, poor kid.
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79. KoritheMan
1:58 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Not really. You've remarked before how you hate being called "baby" (it was back when you turned 17 last year). Though I figured my lightheartedness would be more apparent to you.
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78. Astrometeor
1:51 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 77. KoritheMan:

I like it, and I don't want to change myself.


Wow. Okay.


Did that come off as grouchy? You sound a little shocked.
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77. KoritheMan
1:44 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 76. Astrometeor:


If you don't like it, you can change yourself.

I like it, and I don't want to change myself.


Quoting 76. Astrometeor:




Don't call me boy.
Wow. Okay.
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76. Astrometeor
1:38 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 75. KoritheMan:

Is that supposed to be a compliment, dear boy? :)


If you don't like it, you can change yourself.

Don't call me boy. Already worse enough that Max persists in the foolish name-calling, which is strange, because he will ban me if I post his name here.
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75. KoritheMan
1:36 AM GMT on January 22, 2014

Quoting 72. Astrometeor:


That's you.
Is that supposed to be a compliment, dear boy? :)
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74. Bluestorm5
12:20 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 41. Skyepony:
Oh the days of running off to go play D&D. Have fun:)

Astro~ College is really way more fun than High School just due to the freedoms & settings. Some of the funnest D&D I've played was in the tunnels under Clemson.
Got to agree with Skye, Astro. I didn't pick the most social college, but I'm still having fun. I plan on exploring Western NC when I'm allowed to have my car on campus my sophomore year :)
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73. Patrap
12:06 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
I don't need anybody,

I, I'm,..I'm Independent

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72. Astrometeor
12:02 AM GMT on January 22, 2014
Quoting 66. KoritheMan:

You're not?

verb (used without object) 1. to be sulky or morose; show discontent; complain, especially in an irritable way.
noun 2. a sulky, complaining, or morose person. 3. a sulky, irritable, or morose mood.



That's you. Not me. I might be down in the dumps at times, but I'm not that.
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71. KoritheMan
6:41 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 69. Andrebrooks:
Yep, could this be another 2008 Snow event.
I dunno about that. I would rather be more conservative. Definitely need to monitor this, though.
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70. Andrebrooks
6:36 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Good night, just dropped by.
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69. Andrebrooks
6:32 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 68. KoritheMan:

Hey Andre. I had the flu for awhile, but I'm hangin' tight.

The snow event... I've been monitoring it. Looks conditional, like every Louisiana snow event. Though I was surprised to see sleet in the forecast this afternoon.
Yep, could this be another 2008 Snow event.
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68. KoritheMan
6:30 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 67. Andrebrooks:
Hey Asst. Sensei, how have you've been doing? Did you hear of the possibility of a snow event for our area.
Hey Andre. I had the flu for awhile, but I'm hangin' tight.

The snow event... I've been monitoring it. Looks conditional, like every Louisiana snow event. Though I was surprised to see sleet in the forecast this afternoon.
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67. Andrebrooks
6:21 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Hey Asst. Sensei, how have you've been doing? Did you hear of the possibility of a snow event for our area.
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66. KoritheMan
6:21 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 64. Astrometeor:


Um....I think you should look up "grouch". I am not one of those.
You're not?

verb (used without object) 1. to be sulky or morose; show discontent; complain, especially in an irritable way.
noun 2. a sulky, complaining, or morose person. 3. a sulky, irritable, or morose mood.

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65. KoritheMan
6:20 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
.
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64. Astrometeor
6:13 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 63. KoritheMan:

Who's the guy who had to look up the word "iconoclast" when we talked in chat that time?


Um....I think you should look up "grouch". I am not one of those.
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63. KoritheMan
6:09 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 62. Astrometeor:


I figured it wasn't sarcasm. If you were actually mad, there would be a cease-and-desist letter coming for me.

I tink I wite betta dan ya! Easy.

:D
Who's the guy who had to look up the word "iconoclast" when we talked in chat that time?
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62. Astrometeor
6:04 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 61. KoritheMan:

That wasn't sarcasm, by the way; I really DON'T care who you share it with, lol.

And yes, you do write pretty well. Perhaps even a little better than I did when I was 17. Maybe. ;)


I figured it wasn't sarcasm. If you were actually mad, there would be a cease-and-desist letter coming for me.

I tink I wite betta dan ya! Easy.

:D
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61. KoritheMan
5:59 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 59. Astrometeor:


Well, she also said she read my entire blog archive...all 71 blogs. Some more than once. She also said I'm a good writer. That's good, because my essays for school stink...

Ha, I'm only sharing with her. She's probably one of, if not my best friend.
That wasn't sarcasm, by the way; I really DON'T care who you share it with, lol.

And yes, you do write pretty well. Perhaps even a little better than I did when I was 17. Maybe. ;)
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60. KoritheMan
5:57 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 58. TropicalAnalystwx13:
Kori watch this and share
I'm not sure what's worse; the friend that was delightfully filming it, or the woman herself. Jesus.
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59. Astrometeor
5:57 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 57. KoritheMan:

Glad to see you took my expression of openness and shamelessness as literally as I'd hoped you would. Your friend knows about my blog now, everybody knows about my blog now, and I... honestly don't care.

:)


Well, she also said she read my entire blog archive...all 71 blogs. Some more than once. She also said I'm a good writer. That's good, because my essays for school stink...

Ha, I'm only sharing with her. She's probably one of, if not my best friend.
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58. TropicalAnalystwx13
5:55 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Kori watch this and share
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57. KoritheMan
5:52 AM GMT on January 21, 2014

Quoting 56. Astrometeor:
Hey Kori, this is what my close friend Elizabeth had to say about your blog:

I actually sorta agree with him. It would be easier if everything were just directly said. Do you know how hard it is to read body language?
Glad to see you took my expression of openness and shamelessness as literally as I'd hoped you would. Your friend knows about my blog now, everybody knows about my blog now, and I... honestly don't care.

:)
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56. Astrometeor
5:46 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Hey Kori, this is what my close friend Elizabeth had to say about your blog:

I actually sorta agree with him. It would be easier if everything were just directly said. Do you know how hard it is to read body language?
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55. Astrometeor
12:40 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 54. Doppler22:
Max and Nathan, you two need to separated from each other and put in virtual timeout. XD


Sorry Kori for reading this late. But very well said.


I didn't do anything wrong. It's not my fault he can't understand anything I say. It's not like I'm speaking a foreign language, or anything.
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54. Doppler22
12:38 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Max and Nathan, you two need to separated from each other and put in virtual timeout. XD


Sorry Kori for reading this late. But very well said.
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53. trHUrrIXC5MMX
12:34 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 52. Astrometeor:


To show you what could've been. It's truly amazing, really, to think about how large on an effect tiny decisions can have.

I'm not blaming you, lol. You seem to be transfixed by that word "blame". And, I do want to come to your place. You obviously didn't get the long-winded simile (metaphor?) that I used. Oh well...

Slavery isn't over. Not by a long-shot. It may be far from the public eye...and it has definitely changed, but it's not over.


#whateveryousaid.
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52. Astrometeor
12:32 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 50. trHUrrIXC5MMX:


Why did you take it that far...?

I only asked you a question that night, you responded to it. Don't blame me for asking you.
You are not forced to come to my place if you don't want.
Slavery is log over.


To show you what could've been. It's truly amazing, really, to think about how large of an effect tiny decisions can have.

I'm not blaming you, lol. You seem to be transfixed by that word "blame". And, I do want to come to your place. You obviously didn't get the long-winded simile (metaphor?) that I used. Oh well...

Slavery isn't over. Not by a long-shot. It may be far from the public eye...and it has definitely changed, but it's not over.
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51. trHUrrIXC5MMX
12:30 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 47. KoritheMan:

Nathan is one big grouch. But that's why I like him.

And I have to put up with it. Oh life of mine.
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50. trHUrrIXC5MMX
12:28 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 48. Astrometeor:


Kori's right. Consider a situation where I had left that chat-room to early in the evening for you and I to set up our initial friendship. The result might be that I don't blog quite as much as I do now on your blog (if at all) and therefore I don't have the same friendship as I do with you. I could be just another blogger to you, and your alternate universe self wouldn't ever really think about it.

If my alternate universe self suggested that we could be great friends and stuff, you would probably respond with "I guess so...".


Why did you take it that far...?

I only asked you a question that night, you responded to it. Don't blame me for asking you.
You are not forced to come to my place if you don't want.
Slavery is long over.
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49. Astrometeor
12:25 AM GMT on January 21, 2014
Quoting 47. KoritheMan:

Nathan is one big grouch. But that's why I like him.


-_-

Am not.
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